Styling vs. Style
Barbara from Sewing on the Edge just wrote a great post about styling today. Sorry for not commenting (I am not able to comment on blogspot blogs right now)! I thought it was a great post in general, but specifically, I thought it was about me. Not in the narcissistic “everything is about me” way. No, no, no. I mean more in the “guilty as charged” way. To quote Barbara:
“But mainly I think we all go wrong trying to chase our style by thinking it’s a noun and not a verb.
Style isn’t what you buy or make or copy or find by following a prescription.
Really stylish people, the ones you want to be, don’t have style.
They are styling.”
I feel like hitting my forehead and yelling a big DUH! I accessorize very rarely or just wear the same jewelry every day. I have one suit with which I wear the same necklace every time. I don’t have a large accessory collection, jewelry or otherwise. I hardly ever wear belts (they never seem right on me). I wear one purse a season and don’t change it often (doing so guarantees I forget my wallet). I don’t wear scarves or brooches. My accessories really are just my clothes themselves.
I have always felt stymied when accessorizing or styling outfits. I tend to wear suits or dresses the same way every time. Part of the reason is that I don’t think I’m good at accessorizing and the other part is, to put it bluntly, I can’t be bothered to think about it every day. I think the second reason is impacted by the first reason though because it would take me a long time to think outside of my particular box and I don’t want to spend that time. Especially when you wake up late (again), and you have to get yourself and the little boy who lives with you ready every day.
How do you teach a 43 yr old dog new tricks?
Speaking of accessorizing and age, I have just started wearing flats every day. I haven’t been able to find any good heels the last 2 years. They are either too painful to wear or don’t fit right and fall off my feet. Sometimes both. I can’t figure out why either. It’s the same with buying shoes on-line or in the store. They feel fine in the store, but then I bring them home and they are other brand new torture devices or fly off my feet as I walk. WHAT IS UP WITH THAT??? Why only now in my 42nd and 43rd years of living do I have this problem? I don’t understand. So, the last week or so, I have been wearing the same black flats every day. And I have to say that even though I look as if I have “given up,” I am so comfortable. I don’t have to calculate just how far I have to walk anywhere and thusly how bloody my feet will be or if I will lose a shoe on the way. I just walk.
But here’s the rub… Have I just given up? Do I look like a woman of a certain age that just doesn’t give a damn anymore? I see my skirt-suited reflection in the glass walls around me and notice my flat-shoed self and think, “Man, that just does not look good, but boy, am I comfortable.”
Is it just a case of not being used to this kind of look? Is there a way to make flats with skirt suits look good?
Or have I just really given up?
Do you style yourself? And if so, do you do it every day? Is it a reflex to you? Or do you have to work at it?
And last question, I promise, are you a flats or a heels only kind of person?